8 Surprising Ways to Get Your Mojo Back...Reenergize

Need to re-energizeLearn 8 simple tips that can help busy people reenergize during busy days. My life is great…I have the career I wanted, a supportive spouse, smart kids, two cars, but I am exhausted and not enjoying all that I have, let alone functioning at my best. Does this sound familiar?

 

Believe me, I’ve been there! My busy life is terrific, but I’ve gone through those times when I am not feeling wonderful, let alone healthy. This is a common experience among busy adults. We are up early and already feeling as if we are behind and tired. And, this is only the first 15 minutes of the day!

 

There is plenty of research out there that proves that as humans we can only really stay focused  and perform well for approximately 90 minutes. Then we need to seek restoration. Taking short focused breaks can help you get your mojo back. Turns out managing our energy is more important than managing our time!

 

If you want to feel you can perform at your best all day, achieve improved health, and feel greater happiness, then you need to manage your energy. This happens by increasing your energy capacity in four key areas: physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

 

Rub the sleep from your eyes and take a deep breath. Here are some tips for getting your mojo back. Some may even sound counterintuitive - just try them!

 

  1. Go outside for 5-10 minutes. I can hear you now, “What? I don’t have time to go outside because I have got to do …..”  Just take five minutes, go outside and breathe deeply.
  2. Every 90 minutes, get up, move to a new place (outside is great) and get a change of scenery for a few minutes.
  3. Stand up and do some simple stretches.
  4. Set a timer every 60-90 minutes. If you tend to get “lost” in your work and lose track of time,  let the timer remind you it’s time to move, stretch, and breathe.
  5. Switch gears. If you are struggling to get a task done, stop and go do something different! When you come back, you will be amazed at how refreshed you are. Now try tackling that “difficult” task!
  6. Eat a healthy snack and drink water.
  7. Change “channels” mentally and emotionally.
  8. Tap into your deepest core values. What is most important to you? Create a sense of purpose in your life.

 

Try some of these for a week or two and notice what changes for you. I believe you will find that you actually begin to enjoy your life, your family, and your work more. You will increase your energy throughout the day and actually do a better job of whatever the task is at hand. Taking the time to breathe and reenergize may be one of the most important things you can do for yourself.

 

Shirley Michl is a Certified Integrative Health Coach and owner of Intentional Wellness, LLC. Schedule a free 15 minute telephone consultation today.

9 Signs You Need Help Managing Your Stress and Energy

If it wasn't for stress I'd have no energy at allWondering why you are feeling burned out even though you are doing good things in your life?  You're working hard and you're successful. Maybe you even workout or walk (occasionally) so you're getting some exercise. But...you are still left feeling frazzled, fatigued, and always have that nagging feeling of never being caught up! This could be a sign you need help managing your stress and energy. If this sounds familiar, this post is for you. I was there! I had a great leadership position in my company, made good money, was in demand, focused on getting my certification as an integrative health coach, had great family and friends, and took decent care of myself physically, or at least I thought. And, I was completely stressed, drained, and began to experience health issues. Nothing felt as great or exciting as I knew it could. Why? Because I was doing a lousy job of managing my stress, and more importantly, my energy!

I'm not alone in this. My clients experience this. Many colleagues experience this. Simply talk to people and you will hear how busy, stressed and overwhelmed they are. According to research:

  • It's estimated that 90% of health practitioner visits (conventional & complementary) are due to stress.
  • 75% of total health care costs are spent on preventable issues...lifestyle choices.
  • 40% of Americans are sleep deprived.
  • and the stats go on and on...

Do you recognize any of these 9 signs in yourself:

  1. Sign #1 you need help:  You wake up every morning feeling more tired than you did when you went to bed. You've tossed and turned much of the night. You couldn't stop your brain from going over your work deadlines or life issues. Even if you went to bed on time, it simply meant you were laying there in bed, not relaxing or sleeping.
  2. Sign #2 you need help:  You dread starting your day. It just feels like there is no joy or fun in your day. You begin to think about all the work waiting for you, what you still need to do, what problems are headed your way. Depending on your personal life, you may have kids to get up, feed, get to school, a long commute, a bad hair day...endless tasks and responsibilities simply to get to work and start your day!
  3. Sign #3 you need help:  You find little to smile about. With so much to do, so many meetings, deadlines, demanding boss, demanding customers...how can you smile. Oh yeah, and it's a bad hair day!
  4. Sign #4 you need help:  There is no time for lunch. You grab something on the go, probably fast food. Or you brought something and eat it at your desk while still cramming in your work. If you do go to lunch, you can't relax because of all that needs to be done in the afternoon, plus what did not get done in the morning.
  5. Sign #5 you need help:  You reach for your antacids...a lot! Your stomach churns and the familiar heartburn rages. You think this is just normal, after all, everyone else around you is complaining of the same thing! News flash...this is not normal or healthy!
  6. Sign #6 you need help:  You reach for your over the counter go-to for your headache...that has been with you all day. You typically find yourself taking a pain reliever for headaches multiple times a day at least 3 days a week. Big sign that stress is getting the best of you.
  7. Sign #7 you need help:  You work long hours everyday. You promised yourself you would leave at a reasonable time. You even promised your significant other, or your child. But, there is that IT issue, a new demand from your boss, that report that needs to be done. Or maybe you are on the project from hell. It sounded so exciting and promising at first...now it's a life force sucking project that has more problems than solutions.
  8. Sign #8 you need help:  You are tired, cranky and just want to eat and watch mindless television when you get home. You finally get home - and there it is, your second job!!! There is no rest, just more tasks to do! Your family wants your attention or you need to run the kids to their activities, get groceries, pick up the kids, write your performance review, mow the lawn, grab fast food for dinner....
  9. Sign #9 you need help:  You "have no time" to take care of yourself! You would love to get a massage, walk with your family and friends, workout, participate in sports, but there's no time for that. You can't even remember when you really had a physical check-up or got your teeth cleaned.

Do any or all of these sound like you? 

Most of us can relate to at least some of these at some point in our life. We've grown used to this. We tell ourselves it's the price we pay. It's simply the way it is. How many of us have bought into these beliefs along the way to adulthood? It is so easy to get so caught up in the demands of living, of achieving, of getting more...whatever the more is. We lose sight of what is really important. We focus almost entirely on what we need to do in the short term to get results, impairing our long term ability to be healthy human beings.

The Good News!

Yes, you can do something about this! You can get off that treadmill, at least enough to regain your energy and decrease your stress. Let's face it, there will always be stress in our lives. And stress is not all bad!  We all need some stress to motivate us to perform. Unfortunately, many are living in a chronic state of fight, flight or freeze because of stress that is not managed.

An important key to managing stress is learning how to manage your energy. Instead of focusing on how to manage your time, seek to manage your energy!

Watch for my next blog for tips on how to manage your energy.

 

Stress Management - Intentional Wellness

stress Stress is everywhere. It may seem as though there's nothing you can do about it.  You have all these demands in your life....a hectic and demanding career, bills that won't stop, family responsibilities, and too few hours in the day. Do you feel overwhelmed by all these? Don't know what you could possibly do to reduce this stress? The truth is you have more control than you think. The simple realization that you're in control of your life is the foundation of stress management. It's time for intentional wellness and choosing to let go of stress. This is about you taking charge, making choices (intentionally) of your thoughts, emotions, schedule, and how you deal with problems and stressors.

Identify the sources of stress in your life.

Stress management starts with identifying the sources of stress in your life. This isn't as easy as it sounds. Sometimes the true sources of your stress aren't always obvious. It's easy to overlook your own stress-inducing thoughts, feelings and behaviors. Yes, you know that you have a lot of pressure with your job and you're constantly worried about meeting deadlines. But what are you thinking and saying to yourself about the situation? Your own thoughts and how you react to the stress can be increasing your stress.

To identify your real sources of stress, look closely at your habits, attitude, and excuses:

  • Do you blame your stress on other people or outside events, or view it as entirely normal and unexceptional?
  • Do you explain away stress as temporary ("I just have a million things going on right now") even though you can't remember the last time you really took a breather?
  • Do you define stress as an integral part of your work and/or home life ("Things are always crazy around here") or as a part of your personality ("I have a lot of nervous energy, that's all").

Until you accept responsibility for the role you play in creating or maintaining it, your stress level will remain outside your control.

Start a Stress Journal

Why would you want to document stress? Isn't it bad enough experiencing it? Actually starting a stress journal can help you identify the regular stressors in your life and the way you deal with them. Each time you feel stressed, keep track of it in your journal. As you keep a daily log, you will begin to see patterns and common themes, and get to the true sources of the stress.

  • What caused your stress (guess if you are unsure)
  • How you felt, both physically and emotionally
  • How you acted in response
  • What you did to make yourself feel better

Look at how you currently cope with stress. 

Think about the ways you currently manage and cope with stress in your life. Your stress journal will give you hints. Are your coping strategies healthy or unhealthy, helpful or unproductive? Unfortunately, the coping strategies of many only increase stress and it's harmful effects.

Unhealthy ways of coping with stress:

These strategies may temporarily reduce stress, but they cause more harm in the long run.

  • Drinking too much
  • Overeating or under-eating
  • Smoking
  • Sleeping too much
  • Procrastinating
  • Zoning out for hours watching TV or on the computer
  • Taking medications to relax
  • Withdrawing from family, friends and activities
  • Filling up every minute to avoid facing the problems
  • Lashing out at others

If your methods of coping with stress aren't contributing to your physical and emotional health, it's time to find healthier ones. While there are many ways to manage and cope with stress, they all require change. Yes, you can change....it is a choice! You can either change the situation or change your reaction. Since everyone has a unique response to stress, there is no one universal method that works for all or for every situation. Experiment with these different techniques to see which makes you feel calm and in control of yourself.

The Four A's to Deal With Stress

Change your reaction:

  • Adapt to the stressor
  • Accept the stressor

Change the situation:

  • Avoid the stressor
  • Alter the stressor

Stress management strategy #1:  Adapt to the stressor

If you can't change the stressor, change yourself. You can adapt to stressful situations and regain your sense of control by changing your expectations and attitude. You can make this choice, have the control and power to do this....it is up to you.

  • Focus on the positive; practice gratitude. When stress is getting you down, take a moment to reflect on all the things you are grateful for and appreciate in life. Be sure to include your own positive qualities and gifts. This one strategy can help you view things in a new light.
  • Look at the big picture. Take perspective of the stressful situation. How important will it be in the long run? Will it matter in a month? A year? Is it getting in the way of your vision and goals? Is it really worth getting upset over? If the answer is no, focus your time and energy elsewhere.
  • Reframe problems. Look at the stressful situation from a positive perspective, especially if you cannot control the situation. Rather than fuming about a traffic jam, look at it as an opportunity to pause and regroup, listen to your favorite radio station, or simply breathe and relax until traffic clears.
  • Adjust your standards. Perfectionism is a major source of avoidable stress. Stop setting yourself up for failure by demanding perfection. Set reasonable standards for yourself and others. Let go of feeling the need to "control" every situation or person.

Stress management strategy #2:  Accept the things you cannot change

Some sources of stress are unavoidable. You can't prevent or change stressors such as the death of a loved one, bad weather, or a national recession. The best way to cope with these situations is to accept things as they are, recognizing that you cannot change it. Acceptance may be difficult, but in the long run, it's easier and much healthier for you, than fuming and railing against a situation you cannot change.

  • Don't try to control the uncontrollable. Many things in life are beyond our control, particularly the behavior of other people. Rather than stressing out over them, focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to problems. You do have control over your response to stress.
  • Look for the positive in situations. When you are faced with challenges, what will they provide that is positive? Perhaps they are really opportunities for growth and development. Also consider how you may be contributing to a stressful situation. What are you saying to yourself? What choices are you making? Reflect on those, learn from the past, and choose different responses.
  • Share your feelings. If you feel overwhelmed, talk to a good friend, coach or therapist. Expressing what you're going through can be very cathartic, even if there's nothing you can do to change the stressful situation.
  • Learn to forgive. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world and that people make mistakes. Let go of anger and resentment. That negative energy is harming you. Free yourself. "Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." --Buddha

Stress management strategy #3:  Avoid unnecessary stress

First recognize that not all stress can be avoided, nor is it healthy to avoid a situation that needs to be addressed. However, you may be surprised at the number of stressors in your life that you can eliminate.

  • Learn to say "no". Know your limits and stick to them. Whether in your personal or professional life, refuse to accept added responsibilities when you already have too much on your plate. Taking on more than you can handle is a recipe for stress.
  • Avoid people who stress you out. If someone consistently causes stress in your life and you can't turn the relationship around, limit the amount of time you spend with that person or end the relationship completely.
  • Take control of your environment. If watching TV is your way of zoning out, turn it off. Limit the time you spend on the computer. If clutter is driving you crazy and stressing you out, take some time to clean it up, organize it, or get rid of it. If the news makes you anxious, don't watch it. Look around....you have more control over this than you may think.
  • Avoid hot-button topics. If you get upset over religion or politics, don't engage in those conversations. If you repeatedly argue about the same thing with the same people, stop bringing it up or excuse yourself when the topic comes up.
  • Pare down your to-do list.  Analyze your schedule, responsibilities, and daily tasks. Differentiate between the "shoulds" and the "musts". Think about your priorities and what are those things that move you toward your goals and what is most important. Cross off the tasks that aren't truly necessary.

Stress management strategy #4:  Alter the situation

If you can't avoid a stressful situation, try to alter it. Figure out what you can do to change things so the problem doesn't present itself in the future. Often, this involves changing the way you communicate and behave in your daily life.

  • Manage your time better. Poor time management can cause a lot of stress. When you're stretched too thin and running behind, it's hard to stay calm and focused. But if you plan ahead and ensure you don't overextend yourself, you can alter the amount of stress you're under.
  • Be more assertive. Don't take a backseat in your life. Deal with your problems, accept what role you are playing in the problems and then communicate what you need and what changes you will take. If you are working on an important project and a chatty co-worker stops by, say up front that you have a deadline and could talk later.
  • Express your feelings instead of bottling them up. If something or someone is bothering you, communicate your concerns in an open and respectful way. If you don't voice your feelings, resentment builds and the situation will likely remain the same or get worse.
  • Be willing to compromise. When you ask someone to change their behavior, be willing to do the same. Remember, you may be contributing to the problem too. If you are both willing to bend at least a little, you'll have a good chance of finding a happy middle ground.

Stress management strategy #5:  Make time for fun and relaxation

In addition to taking a positive attitude and taking responsibility for your life, you can reduce stress by nurturing yourself. If you make time for fun and relaxation, you'll be in a better place to handle life's stressors when they inevitably come. Don't get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of life that you forget to take care of your own needs. Taking care of yourself is a necessity, not a luxury.

  • Set aside relaxation time. Include rest and relaxation in your daily schedule. Don't allow other obligations to always override your time. This is your time to take a break and recharge.
  • Do something you enjoy every day. Make time for activities that bring you joy. Even doing that for a short time can yield big benefits.
  • Connect with others. Spend time with positive people who enhance your life. Avoid negative people who can cause you stress. A strong support system will buffer you from the negative effects of stress.
  • Keep your sense of humor. This includes the ability to laugh at yourself. The act of laughing helps your body fight stress in a number of ways.

Stress management strategy #6:  Adopt a healthy lifestyle

You can increase your resistance to stress by strengthening your physical health.

  • Exercise regularly. Physical activity plays a key role in reducing and preventing the effects of stress. Make time for at least 30 minutes of exercise, three times per week. Nothing beats aerobic exercise for releasing pent-up stress and tension. If you can't find 30 minutes to exercise, then just do ten minutes. Or make a point to move more throughout your day. Park a little further away. Take the stairs. It all helps!
  • Eat a healthy diet. Well-nourished bodies are better prepared to cope with stress, so be mindful of what you eat. Focus on eating whole, fresh vegetables and fruits, lean protein, fiber and whole grains. Start your day right with breakfast, and keep your energy up and your mind clear with balanced, nutritious meals throughout the day.
  • Reduce sugar and caffeine. The temporary "highs" sugar and caffeine provide often end with a crash in mood and energy. By reducing the amount of coffee, soft drinks, chocolate, and sugary snacks in your diet, you'll feel more relaxed and you'll sleep better.
  • Avoid alcohol, cigarettes, and drugs. Self-medicating with alcohol or drugs may provide an easy escape from stress, but the relief is only temporary. Don't avoid or mask the issue at hand; deal with problems directly and with a clear mind.
  • Get enough sleep. Adequate sleep fuels your mind, as well as your body. Feeling tired can increase your stress because it may cause you to think irrationally.

 

Coming soon...Relaxation Techniques for Stress Relief