OK, so it's the beginning of a new year...January 1st, it's that time when many of us promise to keep our resolutions. But most of us don't. This year I'm committing to becoming better. That's it! What I've realized is knowing my WHY is important. Why is where I'm starting...to be the person I'm meant to be.
What does it mean to become the person I am meant to be? I've pondered this for years. Many questions come to mind:
- Why am I here? Really?
- Who am I supposed and meant to be?
- What am I intended to do?
- What are my gifts, my strengths?
- How do I learn this?
- How do I do it?
I've struggled for many years to figure this out. Can anyone relate to that? I decided to take a different approach to this. Stop struggling!!!! Recently I've begun to relax about this. Trying to hard to figure out these giant questions is actually working against me. What am I doing instead?
Meditating more and regularly everyday. The answers are coming through. I've reassessed what brings me joy - in addition to my family, friends, hiking, travel, cooking... Throughout my life my joy has come from helping others. Well it's not earth-shattering and may even sounds schmaltzy! Then I realized I've known this all along, but kept trying to come up with a much grander sounding WHY. For too long, "helping others" as My WHY made me feel like a St. Bernard dog! Not flattering.
Then...the AHA moment! Acceptance. Stop struggling against it, instead lean into it. Accept what I am meant to be, to do without fighting it or continuing to look for a "bigger title". Isn't helping others a good thing? Even a great thing? Yes!!! It's me! Helping others is My WHY! It brings me joy.
If this sort of struggle sounds familiar, I invite you to relax, let your WHY come to you. Then accept it. It is simpler than I realized. Allow your WHY direct how you live your life. New questions to ponder are now:
- How can I do that better?
- How can I do this for a bigger impact?
- What is my plan?
I challenge you to discover and accept your WHY! Who is up for that? Comment to this and let me know what you've learned.